How sisterhood can help fight mental illness
Depression has been a frequent guest in my life for as long as I can remember and I have tried out almost every conventional and unconventional method to crawl out of it everytime it strikes. From meditaton, counseling and breathing techniques to adult coloring books, baking, crafts and dance. I’ve done it all and some more.
However, it’s only lately that I realized how much it has helped to have a support group of sorts. Not your regular bunch of friends – those are amazing in their own way – but people who are fighting similar battles as you. I cant begin to explain how much it has helped to have this one particular group of girlfriends online (on Twitter, if you please) where I can knock whenever I feel I cannot go at it alone – that one safe place where I can speak my mind and there will be someone who’ll understand my language, without any judgment. They will not dismiss or trivialize my feelings, however unreasonable or irrational they may be because they UNDERSTAND. They have been down that road, and they know exactly what to say and do to make me feel better in that moment.
We aren’t there to offer advice or solutions to each other, because we know there aren’t any, atleast not instant ones. We’re just there to listen, have each other’s back, rant and vent, joke and gossip, and generally egg each other on through yet another day. We take turns at being cheerleaders, depending on who’s going through a rough patch and do all we can to make them feel loved and cared for, because we know that’s all that is needed at times.
We hold each other’s hands through major episodes of depression and anxiety attacks, indulge in silly banter to cheer each other up and sometimes dive into deep philosophical discussions on spirituality, life, death and the Universe. Sometimes we remind each other of our strengths, individual and collective, because it is all too easy forget the power we carry within. We help build each other up, push each other to be better everyday, grow more, achieve more. For me, there is no better example of woman power than this because everyday, it reminds us of what we can do for each other and there is no greater joy than making someone’s day better and giving them a reason to smile.
To my girls – you know who you are. I love you to bits.
Shuchi is the author of two romantic comedies – ‘Done With Men’, and ‘I’m Big. So What!?’. She freelances as a writer, editor and blogger, and runs a writing firm called the Pixie Dust Writing Studio. When she’s not writing, Shuchi likes to travel, read and bake awesome cakes. Find out more at http://www.shuchikalra.com. You can also tweet to her @shuchikalra.